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Did I pick the right person ? This questioninverts the starting and ending points.We do not pick our perfect match because we ourselves are not perfect. The universe hands us a flawless diamond - in the rough. Only if we are willing to polish off every part of ourselves that cannot join do we end up with a soul mate.....

The usual means of selecting one's mate is no less dominated by appearances. Those seen as ordinary are not considered in first go. Period.

But if the calves are a centimeter wider, if the eyes are centimeter wider..... if the career gives the right impression..if the ageis less..and hair are longer......etc etc..the individual is attractive and desirable and worthy.No one is would be so dumb as to pick a friend because he or she has good legs, and yet considerations such as that influence the choice of one's life partner. What comfort is a complexion or hour glass figure, when you must come home all tired exhausted....to share professional tensions in the evning ? What tenderness and fun can the right height give to a new born child ? And in illness what compassion can come from net worth of a man ?

Looks good or is GOOD ( person): that is the needed SHIFT in perception.....

- excerpts from Notes to Each Other

There is no perfect plan how to argue...Perhaps it's enough that there had been agreed upon approach..However, there would seem to be certain obvious fundamentals. Choosing a time that is conducive to concentartion. Not taking up more than can be solved. Listening....being fair..and possibly more than all else...using arguing as means of helping the relationship....When you and I srgue with awareness-.........awareness of the direction we want our relationship to go.....we benefit far more by improving the current relationship we both live in than we ever could by merely making a point or extracting acquiescence.

COMMITTMENT, a sense of responsibility...emotional and above all physical fidelity.....bcoz of misconceived notions and conditioning they belive they will lose part of their machismo...lose the predatory image when are in some serious relationship....... it's really a herculean task to get them committed..... may be a need of companionship..a sense of compassion...to fulfill an obligation...or a desire for a friend that one will keep for life.......

And this is what a friend of mine has to say about the thoughts expressed above.....

Woman's spiritual mind, which is the mind of the human spirit, has more contact with this natural world than man. This is what makes the woman's mind so perceptive. wht some would refer to as "women's intuition," is simply this vast area of perception. If a person thinks every thought imaginable, it shouldn't seem too surprising if at most times, they hit the nail right on the head of what they feel is or might be such as being sensitive to the subliminal vibes of other people. It's like a multiple-choice test. Its just tht the person has to chose the right answer. All answers r given already.

The same hold true with women's mind. This explains why men need women, and exemplifies the foolishness of men not listening, whenever the woman may speak and advise him.

In finding love, one must be cautious of not getting themselves involved with deceiving circumstances. Deceiving circumstances happen when it "appears" to be love on the outside, but actually it's the same muck that you previously stepped in time after time.

committment is a delicate situation. what are you going to trust: your perceptions, or trust that your frn / partner knows better what's good for you? you do need space to figure this out. but the sort of space I'm talking about is the mental space of looking within yourself to find out how you truly feel.

NOW has a thousand other names..............COMMITTMENT, AWARENESS, CONCENTRATION, REST,PEACE and above all LOVE.....but it is ONE expereince., the only expereince that truly matters. So sink in the welcoming arms of the PRSESNT. Lie back on the breast of love, never to know worry again. There is no ther place to go.There is nothing else to do. For I am with you, and we areone....Now and forever and forever now............

I read this somewhere...and felt it so soothing.....releasing all pain and fear.....